Now for something REALLY scary: SEX

I love writing this blog. Exploring folklore, myths, legends, and the paranormal has been my passion since September 2008 when I started WAY PAST NORMAL. 

But every once in a while, I want to talk about books. Specifically, I want to be able to talk about the romance novels I write, which contain the paranormal (no surprise there) and people (hard to have a book without characters) and love (romance novels, right?) and sex. Apparently a few people have been shocked by that last one. 

Yes, my characters have sex.

And yes, my mother knows what I’m writing.

Why do my stories contain sex? Because sex is real. It exists. It’s a basic need and yet, so much more than that. It’s a vital part of who we are, and how we connect to and bond with the one we love. It’s both powerful and subtle, profound and sublime.

Sex in my stories is never casual. My characters don’t have gratuitous sex. No one-night stands, no orgies, and no sex just for the sake of adding another sex scene to the book. In my world, sex springs out of love, and the relationship grows because of it. Sometimes the characters learn from it and are even changed by it.  

Omigod, you’re saying, I came here to read something about the paranormal, not get caught up in a chat about sex.

I promise, I’ll get back to the ghosts and monsters soon. I just need to let my readers know that you’re now going to see a new page before you get to my blog. You’ve seen this page before, the one with the little disclaimer that announces that the blog you’re headed for might have ADULT CONTENT and do you want to proceed? It’s just the first time you’re going to see it on WAY PAST NORMAL.

Does this mean I’m suddenly going to decorate my blog with a whole lotta naked people? No. In fact, the most shocking pictures you’ll see here are on some ads for blog hops I participate in and links to other blogs that I follow which sometimes show shirtless males. Oh, and the photo at the beginning of this post.

In other words, my blog’s going to look about the same as it always has.  

But every once in a while, in between such subjects as Lucky Frog Legends and the Year of the Dragon and Black Big Cat Sightings and Tales from the Psychic Toolbox, I’ll be talking about my novels and sharing some excerpts. One of those times will be March 22 – 25, for the “18 and Over Book Blogger Giveaway Hop”.

I sincerely hope you’ll drop by for the fun.

Dani Harper
www.daniharper.com


Questions for my readers:  What's your opinion about sex in romance novels?  Does it depend on the story?  Do you have a preference as to quantity? A little? A lot? None at all? Or "let's see how many state laws we can break"?

12 comments:

  1. I understand that some readers hate sex scenes in books but it is a part of serious relationships and a part of life! I'll admit I don't like when sex is put in at the expense of the story (simply because it makes for a rubbish book that insults your intelligence) but when it's a natural progression between characters I have no problem with it what so ever. As for how much sex to put in a story well that depends on the characters as well, whether they're the sort of characters that would be having sex a lot or they're more conservative!

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    1. I agree, there needs to be a natural progression --- and it's going to be slower for a shy character or for a couple who have issues to overcome.

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  2. I love romances, and part of that is the sexual tension. I'd be disappointed if it didn't go anywhere, but I don't need sex scenes on every other page. I'm with you: If it moves the story forward in some way, it has a purpose. Sometimes the situations characters get into are so intense, readers need a break. Stopping to explore sex is a good way to slow things down, while heating things up and keeps them turning the page.

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    1. Good point about using a sex scene to offer a change of pace. I can see that might be especially useful in a high tension adventure story or thriller.

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  3. I love the hot sex in romances and the things that can be done in paranormals because some of these characters have powers that humans don't, make it all the more fun. I don't mind hot sex scenes because that just makes the stories all the more hotter.

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    1. True - some paranormal characters have a lot of stamina and a few other interesting talents!

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  4. I hate reading a book thats labelled a paranormal but its so full of sex its crossed the line into erotica by the 2nd chapter. And then when that happens its not even good sex scenes. Its monotonous and boring to be reading the exact same thing over and over...

    Maybe I should chuck in here that yes I agree with you. Sex is natural and as such should progress in a relationship NATURALLY. Unless the MC is loose. In that case I just wouldn't be reading it because it doesn't even come close to meshing with my morals, so there is no way I am going to click with a sleezy character.

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    1. I agree. I enjoy sex as a natural part of the story but when it completely takes over the story, what's the point?

      And yes, while it's sometimes fun to read about a heroine who's as bold as we WISH we were, most of us still want that to spring out of love or at least potential love. Otherwise, it can be a turn-off.

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  5. I too find that it's a natural progression in any relationship. I have no problem with it when the characters are emotionally involved. Of course I can't get into violent sex. And I don't enjoy porn. But when it's part of the characters story I have no problems at all. It does make the story more realistic to me.
    Carol L
    Lucky4750 (at) aol (dot) com

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  6. I agree with you and Gabbie -- if I want to read erotica, I'll specifically go and find a book from that genre. But in a book labeled "romance", the sex needs to be loving.

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  7. I agree with everyone here. If it's going to be erotica, label it as such. If it's meant to be a relationship, then label it romance and make sure there is romance between the characters. They should talk, interact, think, and do more than simply have sex. That's my $.02.

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  8. Hey, that's worth a lot more than two cents!

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